Here’s a fact friends: Negative thoughts are your saboteur speaking in your ear, that tiny voice telling, “You are no good, that you can’t do it, and that there’s never enough.” Yikes! The saboteur in overdrive really takes you down a path of depression, can’t it? I remember when I was younger how my little voices would be keep me small and fearful by telling me that, “I wasn’t good enough,” so why even bother to compete?
It would also tell me that my voice didn’t matter, “why speak up when nobody was listening to me?” Since venturing into being coached I’ve learned what voices to listen to and which ones need some love.
Taking a different approach here, everything is rosy, life is good, and you are happy. A more “perfect” scenario, that I will assume, you would like to find yourself in that scenario. This is a better place to live in, right? Here are 3 tips that will help you to stay positive even when that ugly voice in your head wants to keep you down.
1. Ask yourself, “is what I hear my voice saying 100% true?” Usually, the case is not 100% true. If it is, how can you turn it around?
2. Have a chat with the voice in your head. “I know you are trying to protect me, what do you really want or what do you need?”
3. Focus on a positive accomplishment or a pleasant experience that brought you happiness. Keep a gratitude journal and focus on everything you are grateful and positive for the day.
If you love to read about these topics, here’s a book that I love, “Anatomy of Peace,” by the Arbinger Institute. It discusses what kind of boxes the voice in your head wants to put you (the not good enough box, the your better than others box) and then place the top on so you can’t climb out. It talks about your interactions with others and the relationships you create. An easy book to read, and to quote one my client’s “It reads like a novel.”
Do you keep thinking of all the negative thoughts in your head to keep you down? Then consider the above steps to take you out of that space and bring yourself to the bright side of life (as the Monty Python gang would say). Look at the positive and bring yourself to a new choice, a new perspective, a place you want to live your life.
Sue Bock has a diverse background in nursing, technology, corporate, & sales fields. For the past 18 years. Ms. Bock has been enjoying her nursing career, providing knowledge, compassion, and a sense of humor to her patients. A trained life coach at the Coaches Training Institute, her passion for life is motivating her to share her gift of compassion and courage with others.